I applaud Mo'Nique for her honesty, not to the public but to herself. It is far beyond time that couples get honest with themselves for the sake of creating lasting unions built on integrity. Whether or not I agree with open relationships is irrelevant, however what is extremely profound is that she and her husband created an agreement that was suitable for their marriage.
Instead of looking outside of themselves for the answers to their relationship they have designed a relationship tailored to their own desires.
Wouldn't it be a revolutionary idea to be in a relationship where honesty trumps and all of the details could be negotiated? It sounds like they are being honest with themselves and each other that they may one day:
- Yes. Be sexually attracted to another person
- Yes. Actually desire the physical touch of another person
- Yes. "God forbid", have sexual relations outside of the marriage
- Yes. Still be in love with each other afterwards
By no means am I suggesting that an open marriage is for everyone but it is obviously what is working for them. More importantly, what I am suggesting is that more individuals live the life that they really want, even if that means committing to love forever without necessarily committing to one life-long sexual partner.
In my new book, Recession Proof Relationships I address what I call creating "relationship agreements". These are agreements made within the relationships that define the rules. Without clear discussion of desires, beliefs and expectations it is impossible to build a lasting relationship because some is bound to break the rules or even worse, be living unhappy.
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